The Scary Jar: A Tool for Courage

MB Ford, a master coach and mentor, whose work has deeply impacted me, once shared a tool she used during her most fearful times. Every time she invited someone into a conversation (despite her fear), she wrote their name and the date on a slip of paper and dropped it into a jar. Her reminder was simple: “Am I still alive? Still breathing? Then I’m winning.” Over time, it rewired her nervous system to stop associating bold invitations and outreach with danger—and start associating it with courage. Yesterday, I had my own “Scary Jar” moment. I chose to be of service and stepped in for a client who was forgetting to show up as the leader he had already declared himself to be. It was scary. It was uncomfortable. But it was aligned. At the end of the day, the question is always – How will I show up and serve others? Coaching isn’t about comfort – it’s about alignment with your boldest self.

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I said YES to Playing Big Again

I said yes to Playing Big – for the second time. I’m delighted to share that I’ve completed the Playing Big Facilitators Training (again!) with Tara Mohr But this time, it wasn’t about learning something new. It was about returning to something timeless. A body of work that changed me the first time and deepened me the second. Because some work doesn’t age. It meets you differently depending on the season of your life. And it reminds you, again and again, of what you’re here for. This time, I didn’t show up looking for tools. I showed up listening for truth. And what echoed most loudly was this: What changed? I stopped performing and started listening. I allowed space for my Inner Mentor instead of letting the Inner Critic take over. I held others in their greatness without rescuing or fixing. I designed with intention, not perfection. I found my way back to simplicity, stillness, and truth What stayed the same? My unwavering belief that Playing Big isn’t about visibility – it’s about authenticity. That being more loyal to our dreams than our fears is a quiet revolution. That when we play big, we make it safer for others to do the same And this journey was amplified by the extraordinary Shemantrans who walked it with me. I’m now weaving this work more intentionally into my coaching and leadership journeys. If you’re a woman navigating big questions, bold choices, or invisible barriers – I see you. And I’d be honored to walk beside you. I’ll leave you with this question – one that I keep asking myself, again and again: What are you being loyal to – your dreams or your fears? Because your answer shapes everything.

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Thinking Outside The Box Is Overrated

Thinking outside the box is overrated. This past weekend, we built a better B❒X. I had the honor of guiding an extraordinary group through the BOX® Breakthrough Challenge, a workshop where mindset becomes visible, and transformation becomes possible. Inside this space, we explored the invisible boundaries that quietly shape our thinking, our behaviors, and our choices. Some experiences don’t just teach you something – they let you feel it. At this BOX Experience, three powerful “laws” came alive in the room: The Law of Two Feet The right people always find their way into the space. Each person who showed up carried something the others needed – a mirror, a nudge, a gift of presence. The Law of Giving One participant didn’t just come for herself. She gifted the experience to her friend. Watching them walk this journey together was a beautiful reminder that courage multiplies when shared. The Law of Abundance Two parents brought their daughters into this unforgettable experience. Their love wasn’t about protecting them from the world, but opening doors to new breakthroughs & possibilities. These moments are why I love this work. It’s never just about the B❒X. It’s about what happens when people step into it and then step out… changed.

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One Skill That Changed the Trajectory of My Career & Life

IAf Conference Taipei Memories

I’m heading to Bali this September for the IAF Asia Conference 2025, and my heart is already full. There’s something magical about being in a space where over 200 facilitators from 23 countries will gather, not just to learn, but to connect, reflect, and co-create a better future through the art of facilitation. As I prepare for this journey, I’ve been reflecting on the one skill that has truly transformed my career and my life. That skill is facilitation. Facilitation is more than leading meetings or moderating discussions. It’s the art of creating space -for ideas to emerge, for voices to be heard, for transformation to unfold. It helps leaders do their best thinking, move teams from stuck to sparked, from conflict to co-creation, from data to decision. My journey as a facilitator has mirrored the Hero’s Journey – a path of answering the call, navigating challenges, discovering inner wisdom, and returning to serve. And like all meaningful journeys, it’s come with its share of doubt, discovery, and deep growth. I remember the first time I experienced facilitation at a conference in 2011. My colleague, Laura Hsu, had designed a session called the Questioning Laboratory to introduce the ORID method and it changed everything for me. What struck me wasn’t that the facilitator was the loudest or most present in the room. It was the quiet power of her presence, her questions, the way she had designed this experience, and the space she held. That day, I decided: I wanted to learn how to create that kind of magic. And I’ve never looked back. Over the last 14 years, facilitation has revolutionized my life, my closest relationships, my practice, and my business. Gratitude to all my mentors who have shaped me. Why Facilitation Matters Now More Than Ever In today’s complex, fast-moving world, the leaders who thrive aren’t the ones with all the answers. They’re the ones who know how to host powerful conversations, surface what’s unspoken, expand collective intelligence, engage diverse perspectives, and make sense of complexity with clarity and grace. Facilitation is the skill that makes all of this possible. When you grow these capacities, you don’t just lead better.  You connect more deeply with people from all walks of life. Three Ways to Deepen Your Facilitation Muscle Over the years, I’ve discovered three game-changing ways to sharpen and deepen my facilitation practice: Conferences –  There’s nothing quite like the energy of an IAF conference. Ideas flow. Collaborations emerge. You walk away changed, inspired to serve even more meaningfully.  If you’ve never attended an IAF conference before, consider this your invitation. And here’s the added gem: co-facilitating a session at a facilitation conference is its own transformational experience. Facilitation Training –  Investing in facilitation training changed how I listen, design, and lead. It helped me embody the craft—not just apply techniques.My mentor, Barbara MacKay, often says: “Keep your tools sharp and your perspective fresh.”  Every course I’ve taken, foundational or advanced, has opened new doors, sparked new ways of being, and reminded me that we are always in practice. Certification –  Becoming a Certified Professional Facilitator (CPF-IAF) was one of the most courageous and clarifying steps I’ve taken. It’s not just a credential, it’s a mirror. It invites deep self-reflection, mastery, and alignment with a global standard of excellence. If you’re considering certification, I’d be happy to share my journey with you. If you’re a facilitator, leader, coach, or changemaker or simply someone who cares deeply about transformation, impact and creating powerful spaces, I invite you to explore facilitation.  What’s the one skill that changed your career or life  trajectory? I’d love to hear your story

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Are You Busy?

I am NOT busy! I am doing what I love, with whom I love. Have you heard me say this before? Maybe once. Maybe a dozen times. Because I hear it all the time: “Are you busy these days?” “You look like you’re so busy!” Or, “I didn’t want to bother you. You must be busy.” And every time I hear that, I pause. Not because I’m getting triggered. But because that word busy doesn’t feel true anymore. Busy feels rushed. It feels reactive. It feels like I’m spinning inside a life I didn’t consciously choose. But the truth is… it’s a choice. I’m doing what I love, with whom I love. And that is a blessing I will never reduce to the word “busy.” I create my calendar. I shape my days with intention. I say yes to what fuels me — not what drains me. This is the kind of work that fills my soul and stretches me in the best possible way. When I say “I’m not busy,” I’m not trying to be poetic. I’m honoring the truth I’ve worked hard to claim: I’m feeling aligned. I’m creating from purpose & serving with joy. I’m surrounded by people who light me up. And I choose this every single day. So if you’ve heard me say it and wondered… now you know why. And maybe, just maybe, it invites you to pause and ask: If busy isn’t your truth …what is? Remember, the most powerful way to live is to inspire or move someone to live better. You can subscribe to my YouTube Channel and grab your free copy of “Dare to Be You” eBook here.

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